The Mind of Bluesleepy

Well that’s decided 20 October 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — bluesleepy @ 11:11 pm

As if I weren’t yet sure about who was getting my vote in the upcoming election, the deal is now sealed.  I am reading on that Sarah Palin is in favor of a constitutional amendment to define marriage as between a man and a woman.  I’m sorry, Ms Palin, but who the hell do you think you are?  Just because you find happiness in a traditional marriage doesn’t mean that everyone has the same feelings as you.  Why do you want to deny others the same happiness you have found in your marriage, simply because a person would like to be united with someone of their own gender?

And why do we need a constitional amendment, anyhow?  Constitutional amendments are meant to clarify the Constitution and to keep it a living and breathing document.  We tried legislating morality through the Constitution once before with Prohibition; look where that got us.  Regardless on whether you agree with gay marriage or not, there is absolutely no cause to amend the Constitution to ban it.

My mom believes that gays should be allowed to form civil unions to protect their property and their finances and their relationship, so that a person in a 50-year relationship cannot be shut out of the hospital room when his/her partner is sick or dying.  But her personal opinion is that she would prefer her church not to allow weddings.  That’s a whole ‘nother kettle of fish, though — civil unions versus church weddings.  And there’s no reason not to allow civil unions.  Allowing two grown adults to form a union which protects their finances and formalizes their relationship hurts no one.  There’s no reason not to allow it.

Please explain to me how banning gay marriage is any different from banning black people from voting.  It looks the same from where I am sitting — marginalizing a minority because the majority thinks they know best.


So tonight we had company!  One of the Chiefs in Kurt’s office is transferring next week, so we had her over to say goodbye.  Kurt made dinner, amazingly enough.  I know!  Aren’t you shocked that I let him cook??  It’s just because I utterly forgot we were having her over for dinner until after the commissary closed, and I hate shopping at the civilian groceries.  I couldn’t think of anything good to cook either, and we had already planned on making what he made for our anniversary, only using chicken this time.

I’m still giggling about this recipe.  It calls for scallops, but Kurt elected to make it with salmon for our anniversary.  And now we’ve substituted again, this time with chicken!  We still haven’t made the recipe as written, using scallops.  Oh, well.  Maybe one day.

I pounded out the chicken breasts for him since chicken is notoriously hard to pan-fry.  By the time you’ve cooked the thick end through, the thin end is beyond overcooked.  Plus it’s hard to cook the thick end through.  I don’t know how many times I’ve pan-fried chicken, and thought it was done, only to find the thick end is still raw on the inside.

And chicken is something you don’t want to eat rare.  Eww.

So pounding the chicken flat takes care of this problem, and also makes it a lot quicker to cook.  I also sliced the zucchini that we had as a side.  Kurt did everything else, from making the chickpea salad that went underneath the chicken, to coating the chicken with cumin and pan-frying it, to steaming the zucchini.  And let me tell you, that man can cook!!!

His friend could not stop raving about how delicious it was.  What I love about it is Kurt didn’t make your typical “man” food, like hot wings and hamburgers.  There is nothing wrong with making hot wings and hamburgers; it’s just that’s stereotypical man food.  Instead, Kurt made a gourmet meal!  A very delicious meal to boot.

I had been worried about making a dessert.  I don’t have a sweet tooth, and our meals, growing up, only ended in dessert if we were having company.  And then it was just a Mrs Smith’s pie that my mom invariably burned.  I love my mom to death, but baking, even if it’s a frozen pie, isn’t her strong suit.  In fact, that is where my love of coffee was born.  She’d always serve decaf coffee with her pie, and I was allowed to have a mug too.  And it was goooood.

But it turned out that I didn’t have to make a dessert!  Kurt’s friend had made brownies, and she suggested the most delicious thing — warm brownie with vanilla ice cream, topped off with Magic Shell.  I felt like we were at Friendly’s!

I used to dread my parents having company when I was a kid.  We’d get good food, a dessert, and coffee — yes.  But it also meant that my parents would talk solely in acronyms the entire evening.  Both of my parents were in the Navy, which meant that anyone who came to visit would invariably be Navy too.  So it would be all Navy, all night, when we had company.  It was enough to make my teenaged eyes glaze over.

But now I know more about the Navy, so when Kurt’s friend was over tonihgt, my eyes didn’t even think about glazing over.  It’s so neat to hear their sea stories, especially his friend’s, since she is a female and has had different struggles than he would experience.  Plus it’s neat to get a different perspective on other people in the office.

So all in all, I would say tonight was a huge success!  And I didn’t even have to work that hard tonight.  All I had to do was some housework, and Kurt did the rest.

We need to have more entertaining like this!  Woot!!


8 Responses to “Well that’s decided”

  1. Rosie Says:

    Mmmmm…brownies! I’ve been so good, and I’m losing weight, but I sure am jonesing for a brownie…

  2. beanie Says:

    I thought the US was the “land of the free” and I agree, there should be no constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage. I don’t think society will go on a downslide because of it…. I just don’t see why people are so against it!!

  3. sleepyjane Says:

    Just read a post about it and I agree with you. I think everyone should be allowed to marry who they want. It’s a personal choice after all?

    Brownies? Yum!!

    PS I think you sent your flu to me! *cough* 😉

  4. michele Says:

    I had to laugh out loud here at my desk when you mentioned the burnt Mrs. Smith pies. Oh, too funny, m’dear. Maybe that’s why you have an aversion to cherry pie. 🙂

    I agree wholeheartedly with your take on gay marriage. I couldn’t have said it better myself. You hit the nail right square on the head!!!

    Besides… if one follows Christianity, isn’t it GOD who is to judge a person????

  5. liz Says:

    Not to get into the marriage debate at all, but there is a big difference between denying blacks the right to vote, and denying marriage to gays. Black people can’t do anything to change the fact that they are black. Black skin is a superficial and unchangeable attribute that does not reflect anything about them. Gays, on the other hand, are gay because of behavior and lifestyle. As much as some people argue that they can’t change that, it is still entirely different since it is a behavior. Human beings always have choice when it comes to behavior. And marriage has always been about men and women and procreation, so suddenly saying that people who choose the opposite behavior should have it mean the same thing is very different from denying the vote based on a skin color.

  6. Shippie Says:

    I always get so damn hungry reading you!
    And to follow-up on Liz’ comment….simply to me it’s true that black people can’t change their skin colour, any more than I can change the fact that I’m gay. I didn’t choose that either….it’s part of me. The only ‘choice’ I made was to quit pretending I was something I wasn’t. That IS the ONLY choice surrounding homosexuality….choose to be who you are, or choose to make others happy and more comfortable by acting as if you’re straight. When it comes down to it, there IS no choice, just as there is no choice in changing your skin colour.

  7. Elle Says:

    Yup, with you in this boat as well, although there is enough about Ms. Palin and the way this campaign is being waged even before this revelation that stops me cold. But I’m a socialist pinko liberal terrorist, oh excuse me, Democrat.

    Brownieeees! I need me some now — they’ve been in the back of my mind for a couple of days, now I just have to make some, what the hey, it is the Maxwell Birthday Week Celebration. My excuse and sticking with it.

  8. Caroline Says:

    We had guests too for dinner but gosh, it was family!! I don’t think Schuyler has invited over anyone from work for dinner before!!

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