Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz…
You Are a Marilyn!
Marilyns are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.
How to Get Along with Me
- * Be direct and clear
- * Listen to me carefully
- * Don’t judge me for my anxiety
- * Work things through with me
- * Reassure me that everything is OK between us
- * Laugh and make jokes with me
- * Gently push me toward new experiences
- * Try not to overreact to my overreacting.
What I Like About Being a Marilyn
- * being committed and faithful to family and friends
- * being responsible and hardworking
- * being compassionate toward others
- * having intellect and wit
- * being a nonconformist
- * confronting danger bravely
- * being direct and assertive
What’s Hard About Being a Marilyn
- * the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind
- * procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself
- * fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of
- * exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger
- * wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right
- * being too critical of myself when I haven’t lived up to my expectations
Marilyns as Children Often
- * are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn
- * are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger
- * form a team of “us against them” with a best friend or parent
- * look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel
- * are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent
Marilyns as Parents
- * are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty
- * are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence
- * worry more than most that their children will get hurt
- * sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries
Amazingly enough, a lot of that is spot-on. What isn’t is the part about scanning for danger; I’m too easy-going for that. And I never did form an “us against them” team with anyone. I also am a huge fan of making my kids as independent as possible, and I am not a worry-wart parent. But the rest of it? Dead on.
Apparently I have been channeling Marilyn Monroe lately. I took one of those “just for the hell of it” quizzes over on Facebook and got the result that I was Marilyn in a past life. Only they spelled it “Marylin.” Blargh.
I guess no one making the quizzes over on Facebook know how to spell. I took another quiz about which 1950s pin-up girl are you, and got the result Jayne Mansfield — only it was spelled “Jane Mansfeild.”
I joined a group on Facebook called “People Who Always Have to Spell Their Names for Other People” and realized I don’t have it quite as badly as most people do. At least I have a common name, just one that is spelled uncommonly. A lot of the posters on that group have names that are unpronounceable to the masses, as well as hard to spell. Most of the time I will tell someone my name and not care that they spell it “Carol” because it usually doesn’t matter. But it is frustrating when they ask me how to spell it, and I start off with “K-A-R..” but they’ve already written a C. So then they make a line down the C to turn it into a K, and they’re so focused on that they don’t hear me finish with “Y-L” so they’re utterly confused. And then there’s always a comment about it. Yes, thank you. I’ve heard it all.
What bothers me the most about my name is when people don’t even try to pronounce it. We were at the DMV on Thursday to get the minivan registered in Rhode Island, and the gentleman behind the counter was talking to us about the fact that we’re both registered as co-owners. So he said, “OK, Kurt signs here, and….” I know he was going to say, “Karyl signs here,” but he just didn’t want to attempt pronouncing my name. I gave him a few seconds, hoping he’d make the attempt, but he didn’t. So finally I sighed and said, “Karyl.”
At which point he perked up, and finished with, “And Karyl signs here!”
About 75% of the time, folks get my name right. So I know it’s not impossible. But now you know why I named my kids “Grace” and “Mary”!!
About Mary Ellen, though — it’s already causing issues, which I cannot fathom at all. For one thing, I always call her “Mary Ellen,” so when her name is called at the doctor’s office, I get a bit confused. But mainly, people always want to know whether Mary Ellen is her first name, or if it’s her first and middle names. I don’t really see how it matters; we call her Mary Ellen regardless. And when we tell people that it’s her first and middle names (because people without middle names can have issues), but that we call her by both, they insist on calling her just “Mary.”
Oh well. Maybe when she’s 12 she’ll want to be called Mary. Or Ellen. Or Elle. Or Emme. That was the other thing we were going to call her, was Emme. Get it? EM-EE. M-E!! Heh. I am so clever. I may have to switch to that, just so people will leave me alone about her name. Sheesh.